Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Ruthie {oNe mOntH} & motherhood

more pics below!!!!

Its hard to believe our precious one is ONE month old! I would have posted yesterday when she ACTUALLY was one month old, but blogger decided to adopt the speed of a tortoise.

Ruthie is still as sweet as ever. She is a typical 3rd child......all of my girls are dead on the "birth order" attributes.

Ruthie isn't really doing anything overly exciting. She is a wonderful sleeper and eater. I haven't heard her cry for more than a minute. I'm not joking! I think if I were to total the hours of her crying a day it wouldn't even come close to half an hour.

Going from two to three has been relatively smooth. The Lord blessed us with an easy baby and for that we are thankful! I do think its been harder adjusting to three instead of two because you run out of arms (two arms, two kids!) and you and your spouse are outnumbered by your children.

I've been doing lots of reading while I'm nursing. I got in this really bad habit of watching tv while I was nursing so I decided to change my ways and do something a little more productive.

One of the books I'm enjoying tremendously right now is "The Mission of Motherhood" by Sally Clarkson.

This book has been a sweet time of reflection and refocus being a new mommy again.

Here are some of my favorite quotes from the book:

"As I have grown through the past eighteen years of motherhood, however, I've come to appreciate the importance of the many thousands of routine moments in a mother's life, for it is in these moments that real greatness tends to be taught and caught. It is certainly important to grasp the great calling of motherhood and respond to a vision for what a family can be. But It's the way I respond to my children in everyday moments that gives me the best chance of winning their hearts. If I have integrity and patience in the small moments of life that are so important to my children, and it I approach them with a servant's heart, then I have a far better chance of influencing them in the larger and more critical issues of life."

"Choosing to be a servant-mother means willingly giving up myself, my expectations, and my time to the task of mothering- and choosing to believe that doing so is the best use of my time at that moment. It means that, by faith, I have already made a decision to make myself available in the routine tasks and myriad of interruptions of daily life because I believe it is God's will for me to serve my family through them. Making this choice ahead of time means I will expect problems and needs to arise and be ready to deal with them in peace instead of impatience and resentment."

Some of you might have cringed a little or gasped out loud reading the words "servant-mother".

Being a servant is not a popular role to aspire to be in our culture today. After all, we have become a people where it's all about being served. Servants are nameless, faceless, unsuccessful nobodies in our culture's opinion as a whole.

Its hard to do a study on motherhood and not bring up the example of Christ. Christ, our perfect example, came to serve others even to the point of serving his disciples the night before his great sacrifice on the cross by ministering to their deepest needs. Jesus spoke words of wisdom, discipline, and encouragement over his disciples, but also modeled before them daily what this looked like lived out.

Jesus chose the life of a servant and sacrifice because of his deep love for us. He was eternally mindful that the decisions he made on this earth, affected those who knew him and would come to know him for all of eternity.

The cost was great- his life.

But, the rewards were even greater- the redemption of all of creation to bring us back to himself.

In Matthew 5:26 Jesus speaks about this very thing.

"It is not so among you, but whoever wishes to become great among you shall be your servant."

It's not enough for us to just tell our children to live right lives and expect them to obey us. We have to show them what a Christ-filled life looks like.

The more babies I have that fill up this house, the more I learn what sacrifice and serving others looks like. Its so easy to take on the role of being a "servant martyr" and have a pity party about the difficult and challenging road ahead that is most often monotonous and mundane. Or be sullen with selfishness that I'm not getting enough "me" time. I still go through this self-loathing pity party often when the days seem so long and I still haven't received a mail-order clone of myself to pitch in a helping hand around here. Don't you wish there were two of you some days???

But, when my perspective is eternal and my focus is on Christ's example, it makes me thankful that I've been blessed to be able to do this everyday of my life. It brings me to a deeper understanding of Jesus' sacrifice for me. Is vacuuming up squashed cheerios in the carpet for the 3rd time today really a big deal in the grand picture of sacrifice? No. But, for some reason it seems that way when my focus is off of Christ.

The goal isn't to raise up children who are moral and good people. The goal is to raise up disciples of Christ who love Him with every beat of their heart and breath on their lips.

And that takes sacrifice and faith in the ONE who has called you to do so.

Here are some of Ruthie's one month photos.


QuiltedSimple said...

How precious my friend! You are truly awesome and so inspiring! So glad everything is going well for you. Ruthie is truly a doll! Enjoy these days - they go by way to fast, don't they?

Anonymous said...

She's so precious!

Anonymous said...

YOU are precious in HIS site..what a true blessing from GOD..Ruthie Claire is so sweet...what a wonderful family and what great parents you and jason our to this beautiful girls..love grandma

The Mosiers said...

She is beautiful! Thank you for the encouraging words. I needed that this morning. Can't wait to meet that precious little one!

Anonymous said...

Lyns, She is beautiful. I can't believe I still haven't met her in person! Once this baby is born, we will be making a field trip out to Yonderway! Love you!

Carrie said...

Beautifully said!

Paige said...

She is absolutely precious! Those pictures are adorable! I can't wait see your creativity abound for my wedding!!

Tanda said...

I visit your blog from time to time via a friends blog and have to say that I completely agree with your post. So many Christ-like attributes go against the grain of this world but praise God this world is not our home! We are praying that God will bless us with number 3 soon so I will store all of the advice in my back pocket.

Anjolee said...

She is beautiful and so were your words here. I copied this post and e-mailed it out. What a beautiful reminder of the wonderful blessing of motherhood and how no moment should be taken for granted. God has blessed us with such a gift as mothers.

mandi said...

oh- sweet girl!
we need to come out so i can give her some kisses!

btw- levi saw the pics and said "that's baby rae when she was just a baby" : )

The Montalbos said...

She's just beautiful! Just like her mother. Does she look just like Kaylyn?

Hendrick Family said...

My refrigerator wants one of these pictures! And my living room...

What a beauty.

I love you and the mommy you are to these babies!


Brandi Tejeda said...

she is sooooooooo pretty! how are you liking the fun diapers???

Anonymous said...

You are so right and such an beautiful example of a servant-mother! Ruthie is so precious! I have so enjoyed getting to know your amazing family!!!


The Campbell Clan said...

What a sweet baby! Congratulations to ya'll. Thank you for what you shared about motherhood. Very encouraging.